December 24, 2012

Receiving Christmas Gifts From the Man You Love. Is it Really the Thought That Counts?


For me it's the thought that counts.  There is nothing more hurtful then a man you love not remembering you on Christmas, your Birthday, Valentine's Day or your Anniversary.  Even if they cannot afford to buy you a gift they should at least make you something, pick flowers, cook dinner or buy you a card. 

Since I met H in Kuwait every holiday has been more than special.  He has exceeded my expectations in the thoughtful, romantic and materialistic department.  I never thought someone could be even more generous than my Father but he has even beaten him.  Unlike my Father who doesn't have a clue what to buy and has to rely on a personal shopper for Mom, H is pretty good at shopping for me.  He has even built a relationship with some of the mangers at my favorite stores so he is called when hot items or limited editions arrive.  Ever since my Father bought my Mother gifts from a hardware store one Christmas many years ago, I was always in charge of purchasing his gifts for Mom.   Basically I became a Personal Shopper from a young age with an unlimited budget. I learned really fast to ask Mom what she wanted so that I could have an idea of what to shop for. I even wrapped them for Dad which made his life pretty darn easy.  To this day I must take credit for helping them stay happily married. ;) When we all left for University he's had to hire a real personal shopper to keep his Queen happy.
Since the man I love has never celebrated Christmas until he met me he brings extra holiday joy into my life.  He is a Muslim and I am a Christian so we both embrace each other's holidays and exchange gifts. He has grown and changed a lot for the better since I first wrote the post, His Rules.   He knows that Christmas is about the birth of Christ (which Muslims recognize as a Prophet in Islam) and not just exchanging gifts.  We also do something special every year to make our Christmas memory last forever.

Now, back to the point of this post…
Do you realize that it may be difficult for your loved one to know what to buy so you often hint or tell them what you would like?

Do you buy your gifts yourself with his money?
If the man you love gives you something you do not like and would prefer to exchange do you keep it because it’s the thought that counts? Do you use it to make him happy or does it end up in your closet with the land of the lost?

Do you tell him you love that he was so thoughtful and bought it for you but would prefer to exchange it for something more your style that you can wear more often?
Do you choose not to exchange gifts with each other and just celebrate a non-materialistic holiday?

Do you give to charities instead of each other?
For H and me we try to be very honest and direct with ‘almost’ everything in our lives.  We also tell each other if there is something we would like to help the other out. Since we both think the other has everything already and that it’s difficult to buy for each other. 

One of my gifts this year was something that I told him I liked.  It was on order for a long time and it finally came in for Christmas.  I only say things that I know he can pay cash for which is why I didn’t ask for the Christmas red Ferrari I want and of course do not need.  (Hint hint to my real Santa in the North Pole.)
One of my favorite gifts from my Mother is a Christmas CD filled with many pictures of us when were were growing up.  The very best thing from Dad is that he has saved most of our Christmas lists and pictures to Santa and he loves to read  / show them over Christmas dinner. I can't tell you how hilarious it is to read what you asked Santa for from 5 - 12 years old.  What little spoiled brats we were!  We were certainly naughty more than nice.  Every year we are together we almost fall on the floor laughing at some of the Christmas drawings we made to go with Santa's milk and cookies.
I saw yesterday that H has also bought me some more gifts from a few of my favorite stores. They are wrapped in the stores wrapping paper or bags and he showed me them last night just to tease me.  I have no clue what they are but again, it’s the thought that counts and how sweet of him to buy me more for Christmas when he has already gone overboard.  

H works very hard for his money and doesn't just depend on his 'family's money' like a lot of people I know in the Southern USA and  Kuwait.  He barely has the time to shop so I'm moved that he actually picks out everything himself with a little help from the sales agents.  The good thing about us is that if I do not like something he will not be upset if I exchange nor would I if he does.  I'm not saying it's always easy to say the word "exchange" but it's just better to be honest.

The Christmas gift I look forward to more than anything is my special poem.  He is a poet and for every holiday or special occasion I receive a poem written just for me.  They are so good he is going to publish them in a book for one of my wedding gifts. Now that’s romantic and one of the reasons I’m sure now about spending the rest of my life with him.

Merry Christmas everyone! Hug your loved ones tight because they are what matters the most.
<3 Expat

P.S. If you have a Western wife or gf and need a little help on what to buy her for Christmas please do not hesitate to email me so I can help you. There is something romantic and thoughtful in every price range.  I would like to add that I have no affiliations with any stores and would never profit from this offer that is just to help you! :)

Update: This was taken from the Arab Times and written by Labeed Abdal [Link]
 
Xmas in Kuwait
 
Christmas is an annual occasion for celebrating the birth of Prophet Jesus which is celebrated on the 25th of December every year. Exchanging gifts and greeting cards, putting up special lights and playing the season`s music themes makes this spiritual time a real special treat which is shared with others.
 
Coming together as a family, and meeting the old, the poor and the handicapped instills in us values of caring for each other, and understanding our responsibility towards the society as we all need to coexist during good times as well as hard times. Many expats are away from home and we wish all of them a merry time. All of us must enjoy the full Christmas regalia, including the costumes and the season, even if it is not snowing here.
 
We in Kuwait are historically open to living amidst multicultural society and understand that our morals are multi-faith and peace with other believers is the most effective way to maintain harmony in the society. In many societies around the world, this season is also a time for cooperation and reconciliation. Very often, Muslim employees fill up for their colleagues at the work place to enable them to take part in the festivities, a gesture duly reciprocated by the other side when Muslims are fasting during Ramadan and celebrating Eid al-fitr.
 
Christmas is truly a sign of tolerance, acceptance and maturity of the society. It is a spirit that needs to prevail every day of every month of every year, away from the atmosphere of hatred, extremism and radicalism.
 
Thank you Mr. Abdal :)
 
 

22 comments:

  1. wish you all the best doll with Mr H , & Merry Christmas . I lived in family who celebrates Christmas , the main idea my parents were thinking of is to teach us how to respect other`s religions , we have lots of Christian friends & we make sure 2 give them gifts . With JJ , it was different , his family never celebrate birthdays or anniversaries , but thanks God , he worked really hard to change , I didn`t change him , cuz people think and keep telling me that that i am the monster who is controlling him :P
    he felt that he wanted to change and started to celebrate with me . We are direct with each other so during the first 2 years I was trying to let him know what i really wanted , but now !! I Am surprised , he knows me very well to get me the things I love in my Bday .

    OH My God ?? what a long comment :/ sorry for that and I wish you all the best

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    1. Thank you so much! :* I loved your long comment. You and JJ make the cutest couple ever. He's tall and handsome and you are so petite and beautiful. You were made for each other. <3

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  2. I never exchanged gifts with my other half because we tell each other what to like/hate

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    1. That sounds great and it's important you find what makes you both happy. :)

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  3. that is very adorably romantic ,like you mentioned its the thought that counts and this is just very thoughtful :) wish you all the happiness and happy holidays:*

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    1. Thank you Her! :*** How sweet of you. <3

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  4. I'm surprised that the commercialism of the Christmas season has infected your blog, because last time I checked a prophet was spelled with a "phe" and not with "fi" since you referenced profit!

    In other news, wishing you and H a merry Christmas and a happy new year and hope you enjoy your new presents.

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    1. Commercialism is alive and well on this blog and so is my celebration for the true meaning of Christmas. I embrace it all and it makes me happy! :)

      Looks like a typo to me. I typed the post with constant interruption at work. I wouldn't be surprised if there was more...

      Thank you for your Christmas wishes.

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    2. Commercialism is the way life is right now hehe :P We are all enticed by that shiny new toy we all crave to get so there is nothing wrong with that.. Don't be offended I didn't mean to be "mean" just felt that it needed fixing since it flew under the radar (sort of)

      And hope your dinner was lovely :D Toodles

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    3. Not offended by u cutie pie. Christmas was grand and love your festive avatar. <3

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  5. Merry Christmas to you and H. I hope you have a wonderful day together.

    As for me, it really is the thought that counts. I wasn't raised in a religious home, never went to church, and Christmas was solely a commercial holiday. But I was always taught it was 'the season of giving', not getting. We would prepare food for the less fortunate, volunteer at homeless shelters, buy gifts for children from the 'Angel Tree', and of course find special things for family members as well. I always got the most pleasure from making others happy and that feeling of knowing I put a smile on someone's face.

    Sure, getting gifts is nice too. But the best gift I got this year was my husband helping me rescue helpless animals. So yeah, it's the thought that counts in my little world :)

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    1. Thank you AG. A very Merry Christmas to you, Hubby and the kittens. It sounds like you and your family celebrate Christmas in such a lovely way. I have some catching up to do with your amazing blog and will be there shortly.

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  6. Spelling error *Prophet......... change it before you upset someone

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    1. Thank you. :) My automatic spell check doesn't recognize and kept changing it to profit. I didn't notice at work nor did my editor who usually catches my typos. However, people shouldn't get offended or upset by an innocent mistake. Everyone is wishing me a Merry Xmas all week and eliminating Christ. Rather then taking offense to this I let it go because they don't mean to be offensive. I appreciate their warm wishes. The world needs more tolerance and forgiveness.

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    2. You never cease to amaze me - how shallow can one person possibly be?? With your insatible appetite for designer goodies and edible fou-fou!! All paid for by gullible Hayati! Or previously by your father. Obviously your mother knew the true value of 'love' too - that was why your poor pops had to hire a personal shopper or else risk the consequences of buying the wrong present!
      What idiot said money can't buy you love?
      Why don't you realise that there is more to life than meaningless consumerism! Why don't you do something worthwhile like volunteer for Operation Hope or donate to those other poor unfortunates who are hiding out in the Philippna or Sri Lankan embasies over the festive season? Let's remember the real meaning behind the birth of Jesus!! (PBUH)

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    3. LOOOL! There can only be one rude blogger to leave such a hater comment on Christmas. Absolutely no manners or class. I feel sorry for your children and their Dads. To insult my mother on Christmas is really just as low as you can go. When you don't know hardly anything about us or how we pay it forward. I really feel sorry for you and your black heart with jealousy.

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  7. WOW! Merry Christmas! Let's remember that it is important not to judge others.
    And when making personal attacks, always leave the family out of it! Play fair...

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    1. +10000 You said it better than I did. Thanks Chica. :* She doesn't bother me but my mother reads the blog and it's Christmas. Such a low comment to write even for her. After KBS blog I guess nobody should be shocked. Haha! That was hilarious!!!

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  8. Since when does buying gifts or asking someone to help out in gift selection mean something negative? And since when does generosity equal gullible?

    We all choose to celebrate our holiday in different ways. One not being better than the other.

    Perhaps if Anonymous was investing their time volunteering and visiting embassies today they wouldn't have all this free time to attack other bloggers and their family on Christmas.

    Santa is watching!

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    1. Thank you AG :* Love u. If there is anyone that is a perfect example to follow in Kuwait it's you. You inspire me and countless others. <3

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  9. I like this post so personal yet so romantic. Aren't we all materialistic? lol

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    1. Thank you! :-) I'm sure there is a material girl side to most of us.

      I love the famous quote: Those that live in glass houses should not throw stones.

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