Photo credit: The 'One Of Us' campaign aims to educate expatriates living in Qatar about wearing appropriate dress
Article written by: Jenifer Fenton of Al Jazeera
When in Rome, do as the Romans do. That is the message of two campaigns started by local women in the Gulf countries of Qatar and the United Arab Emirates.
Najla Al Mahmoud is a Qatari behind the "One of Us" public awareness push, which hopes to educate expatriates about appropriate dress. Specifically, she wants people - men and women - in her country to cover up between the shoulders and the knees. During the summer "the scene of exposed flesh increases", Al Mahmoud said. "We are offended by this... but we are sure that people don't know and we are sure that people will respect this. Why wouldn't they? We want to educate them."
Most local women in Qatar and the UAE wear an abaya, a black garment that covers most of the body. The men wear the kandura, which tends to be ankle-length and a shade of white.
The "UAE Dress Code" campaign, started by locals Hanan Al Rayes and Asma Al Muhairi, began out of disgust at the sight of foreigners dressed in what they deemed to be inappropriate attire, according to media reports. "Whether you like it or not, this country has its own culture that shd be respected & protected by its own people," read one of their recent tweets.
Call for dress code
Hamad Al Rahoumi, a member of the UAE Federal National Council (FNC), does not think public awareness alone is enough because there are people who are aware of cultural norms, but choose to ignore them. Al Rahoumi has suggested legally enforcing a dress code, but the law would act be more as a deterrent than to punish people. "Just because the law is there a lot of people will stop (dressing immodestly)... it is like a policeman standing next to a stop light everyone will (drive) properly... He doesn't have to give anyone a ticket." He added that the seven emirates have different rules regarding attire, and a federal law is needed to make a dress code in the UAE consistent.
Another member of the advisory FNC body, Noura Al Kaabi, said via email that "proper awareness campaigns would be more ideal".
While the awareness campaigns are not focussed on creating dress code laws, they are about respecting cultural norms. But modesty and taste are subjective and without clear laws, what is acceptable attire is often left to the discretion of the wearer.
Article 30 of the UAE Constitution says, "Freedom of opinion and expressing it verbally, in writing or by other means of expression shall be guaranteed within the limits of the law." But to what extent does "other means" cover clothing - or lack of it?
There are also no laws that explicitly spell out the do's and don'ts of dressing in Qatar. Article No. 398 of the Qatari Criminal Act states that one can be fined 300 Qatari riyals (about $82) for acts of public indecency equivalent to urinating or bathing in public.
The only constitutional article that addresses the issue is Article 57, which states: "The respect of the Constitution, compliance with the laws issued by Public Authority, abiding by public order and morality, observing national traditions and established customs is a duty of all who reside in the State of Qatar or enter its territory."
Laws are not needed, and the constitutional article is enough for everyone, said Hassan Al Sayed, a prominent Qatari legal expert. "Just respect the culture in Qatar."
Khalid Al Ameri, an Emirati columnist and blogger, agrees. Enforcing laws pertaining to clothes could prove difficult and arbitrary. For example, a woman may choose to wear shorts and a baggy T-shirt and find herself in violation of a hypothetical law, whereas another "girl might come wearing tight stuff that reveals more than it covers, but complies with the dress code", said Al Ameri, who wrote recently on the topic. Enforcement and punishment would also depend on the actual officer or official to pass judgement, which is not desired, he added.
Public indecency laws, of course, are not unique to the Arab world. Western countries also have rules for covering up, and there are different rules for the sexes. Women in western countries cannot walk around topless, one expatriate commented.
It is not so much a matter of what clothes one wears, but where one wears them, said Al Ameri. "You couldn't wear a short shirt in a mall, but you could maybe wear a short shirt in a private club or private restaurant where it complies with the dress code."
Divided opinion
On social media and Qatari networking sites, some foreign women who have both applauded and denounced the modesty movement said they think time would be better spent campaigning to enforce laws that could save lives, for example fining people who smoke in areas where lighting up is banned, or requiring the use of seat belts.
Others have suggested that stores in the Gulf could sell more "local-friendly" dresses, skirts and the like. The high-end clothing stores on the Pearl in Doha, Qatar, do not generally stock many clothes that would be considered acceptable women's wear in public spaces in the country. Trying to find a shop that sells a dress that has both sleeves and a hem that hits below the knees proved difficult. The same could be said for many of the clothes for sale at the H&M in the local Qatari malls. "This is so bad," said Al Mahmoud, who is also trying to raise awareness at clothing stores by asking that their advertisements and window displays be culturally appropriate.
Shopping in one of the world's largest complexes, the Dubai Mall, presents the same irony - see-through blouses, plunging necklines, and near waist-high skirt slits are prevalent. Pants and blouses, of course, are an option.
"We want Qatar to be a place for everyone. Something in the middle. Not too extreme and not too loose." - Najla Al Mahmoud
There have been calls of hypocrisy, noting that many Muslims vehemently opposed the veil bans in France and Belgium. Comments on Qatar Living, an online community website, run the gamut, with some stating that people should be allowed to wear what they want in public be it in Qatar or Belgium. But others believe that if people do not like the local laws or norms in the Gulf or Europe, then "they should go back to where they came from... In their country, it's their rules."
Qatari Al Mahmoud said one could not compare Gulf campaigns to legal moves in Europe. "We are not interfering with religion... We are not banning a certain attire," she said. "Modesty doesn't have a religion or a country... We are not singling people out or being racists to one nationality or one religion. It's for everyone."
The Gulf should not go the route of some European countries that penalise some people for their clothing choices, said Emirati Al Ameri. The Emirates has grown "as a country and we have become one of the most popular places for expats to go because we have been a tolerant society and because we have taken an approach of educating rather than punishing people that come". A simple dress code is better. "When you have a dress code and somebody doesn't abide by it, they are excluded." The choice becomes theirs. If someone goes to a restaurant and does not wear the appropriate attire, they will be refused entry. "I believe that is a more effective way than by punishing."
Nora, a Muslim expat from the United Kingdom who teaches in Qatar, said "our 'uniform' tells men 'approach with caution'". And, while one cannot control the actions of disrespectful men, "one can control how we dress, so we do", added Nora, who did not want her last name used. That is not to say that a woman dressed immodestly is extending an invitation. "Everyone deserves to be treated with respect."
All those contacted for this article agreed that disrespecting someone who is dressed disrespectfully is not acceptable. "We want Qatar to be a place for everyone. Something in the middle. Not too extreme and not too loose," Al Mahmoud said. UAE FNC member Al Rahoumi agreed. "We don't want them to cover their face... (but), I don't want to see the underwear... It is not suitable."
Whether you like the campaigns or not, outfits that might fly elsewhere will likely not pass in the Gulf anytime soon, despite the number of foreign residents who live in these countries. A Qatari resident from the United States also does not think that any pushback from offended Western women would change local norms, and that foreigners should just adhere to the culture. "What's the big deal? Cover the knees, shoulders and (chest)," said Cena McLatchy. "It's not like they are asking you to go to prayer five times a day, or slaughter a lamb at Eid."
End of article written by: Jenifer Fenton (Al Jezeera)
Most local women in Qatar and the UAE wear an abaya, a black garment that covers most of the body, while men wear the kandura [Getty Images]
Last night I had a dinner date with Hayati and dressed to kill. Not the USA dressed to kill but the Kuwaiti conservative version. :) That's out of respect for me, Hayati and Kuwait. Most westerners are told before they ever step foot in Kuwait to dress conservatively which is for their host country and for safety reasons. I mean, who would want to increase the amount of daily harassment you receive by dressing inappropriately? I know a few but that’s another post. ;P
You really see everything here in Kuwait from western women in short skirts and tight tank tops to local ladies wearing hijabs with skin tight leggings, stripper 5" heels and drag queen makeup. It can be confusing to some expat newbie’s but I think after they dare to wear the slightest risqué outfit the increased "scary" harassment will quickly put them in check.
What do you think Kuwait? Will you be next?


This is totally a topic that leaves me confused! :) On my previous trip to Kuwait, and now that I'm an official expat, I don't know what goes. But I err on the side of modesty, especially since I'm clearly an expat and don't want to further any negative stereotypes.
ReplyDeleteI always keep myself covered from shoulders to knees. If I go crazy and wear leggings, it's under a dress or with a loose tunic. It's not convenient, and I left a ton of cute clothes at home! But, to me, it's what's right and what's respectful.
But you're right...I've seen EVERYTHING here. In just one week! At IKEA, a woman in a dress was showing more cleavage than I'd even seen in the US. I was aghast. And almost embarrassed for her that she was clearly unaware, or disregarding, the social norms here. Booty shorts at the grocery store...breezy, tiny dresses while shopping at the mall...see-through blouses at restaurants.
An official "dress code" would be helpful, in my humble opinion. When I researched Kuwait, it was difficult to find a solid statement about what was expected. I could see how for some, this would mean that there aren't any "official rules" and they can wear what they like. A statement, along with visual representations of what's acceptable would help clear up any confusion for well-meaning expats! :)
You are such a class act which is evident after reading your blog. It's nice to know we have American expats in Kuwait that represent us in such a positive manner. :)
DeleteI just wana say this: i am very impressed and thankful how respectful you guys are to our culture. Not even kuwaitit women respect their own culture and religion anymore. Personally, a dress code would be nice for just around the beaches. When we're at our chalet we suddenly see these beefed up overly tanned kuwaiti men with five girls in g-strings pass by our chalet and my small cousins asked "if thats haram why is it ok? Is kuwait a muslim country??"
ReplyDeleteAwwww, thank you Anon! I am far from perfect but really try my best. Thanks for your sweet comment. :)
DeleteI own a challet and have boats and jetskiis and my daughter who is 19 years old wears a one piece, two piece swim suit and she is a lovely girl, who does not even associate with these types of boys, she is respectable. What do you expect her to wear? I have brought her through Buddist temples, we have visited Christian churches, and we have stayed in hotels in the middle of conservative Jewish neighborhoods because I want her to understand all religions, to be tolerant of all religions and other cultures. This is my contribution the the 'new' mindset in Kuwait. What bothers me about 'clothing laws' is that I believe it is not what you wear or what you eat that makes you a good person, it is how you behave and what is in your heart that counts, especially in the eyes of God. have you watched that show, 'Ice Loves Coco'? Many people would think that Coco looks like a hooker, but she is a really nice lady, that is how she likes to dress. There is alot of hypocracy in the middle-east and I love Dubai very much and enjoy my time talking to the Emiritis, I understand what they are saying but they have to reach an amiable compromise on this matter.
DeleteSounds like you are a really good Father and a very open minded, well-traveled and educated Kuwaiti. :)
DeleteIt's good to be a well rounded person but it doesn't mean you should sacrifice your religion to better yourself. That's one of the problems of the younger generation, forget where they came from and opt for a "Western" lifestyle instead. If you want men staring at your daughter's body that's your choice, I think it's a shame.
DeleteI think he just meant at his private chalet. When he mentioned Coco I took it to mean that even though she dresses kind of skanky and has some plastic enlargements, she seems to be a generally nice person. And we all know that Ice Loves Him Some Coco! :)
DeleteThis past winter my husband and I were having dinner at the Sahara Club and saw a couple (Western female/local male) having dinner as well. OK, she was crying loudly and making a scene, he was ignoring her and getting food from the buffet. She was wearing a mini-skirt and knee high boots though much of her leg was still visible. A cute outfit for a young girl in the US, not so cute on an amazon hefty middle-aged woman in Kuwait.
ReplyDeleteI personally don't see a reason to cover every inch of one's body (though I generally do because of where we live). But I see many women (including Kuwaiti) who show arms, wear leggins, and wear a 'scoop neck' top and make it look very respectable. At the same time, I've seen women in abaya, 6 inch heels, and 3 pounds of make-up looking far less respectable. Booty shorts are just never acceptable -- young, old, thick, thin, US or Kuwait. Ew.
OMG! What a HOT Mess. I wonder if they are still together? ;) Why don't I ever get to see such interesting freak shows?
DeleteIt really depends on how tight or how you wear the clothes. I've seen that abaya look way too many times in Kuwait. I just love it when you see them driving with their abaya slammed in the car door! Local seat belt?
I live in, well both countries, Kuwait and the UAE, so I spend alot of time living in both. As far as Qatar who requested to FIFA that they wanted alcohol banned at the Olympics that they are hosting in 2020 where FIFA responded that alcohol and football go hand in hand and they will pull the Olympics from them if they do this and abruptly banned alcohol on 'The Pearl' project where many western restaurants are located and the customer counts went down to 50% overnight much to horror of investors, now clothing, it seems a bit dysfunctional. Qatar and the UAE have tourism, and tourism is the cornerstone of the UAE economy, so to mess with tourists numbers must be discussed. Everyone knows it is hot and in cultures where many of these expats originate they dress appropriately, many non-muslims, do to weather conditions. Sleeveless tops dresses, what's really the problem? The fine line here is what the GCC nationals in Qatar and the UAE deem as appropriate, but what is appropriate to them may not be acceptable to expats, so there must be a compromise if legal measures are to be initiated. And are you really going to delegate attair to tourists in the malls or clubs? The UAE, not so much Qatar, markets itself as beach destination, so what does that mean at the beautiful beaches in Dubai, BIKINIS, not abayas, we are not muslims. They travel to our countries where they see the way we dress, their children watch OSN network, MTV and western movies, so why all of sudden in 50c weather you can't look at a woman in a sleeveless top? And don't even mention France, because France has every right for security reasons to ban the niqab. But when you talk about Kuwait, the armpit of Saudi Arabia, that is where the equation changes, because understandably you would not want to walk around anywhere in Kuwait with the slightest attention brought to you by the way you dress because of the number of lunatics running around with minimal policemen. You also have no tourism and an unstable government that at a drop of a hat would prefer that every woman wear the abaya. In the UAE, it is far safer than here, men don't chase you like a bunch of sex-craved banchees and the police are very well respected - it is a civil society, Kuwait is not. I find it interesting that this whole issue comes in the forefront in SUMMMER, could there be a bit of jealousy there, because in the UAE and Qatar a woman must wear the abaya and you know how black holds in heat? The UAE has a wonderful government who are truly dedicated to advancing their society and every Emiriti rides on the bisht tails of Sheikh Mohammed's brilliance, I trust that this matter will be discussed and all parties will have to follow the guidelines set forth by this formative government.
ReplyDeleteEven in the US malls and some restaurants in Florida we have posted dress codes for entering. It's not enforced by the law but it is by the owners or security. I think that each country has the right to suggest their preferred attire. I don't think they want religious police going around with sticks like Saudi. They just want the expats and locals to dress modestly in certain places and I will respect their wishes.
Deleteyaay go florida!
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DeleteI think this is just understandable in Kuwait because of the harrassment level. Who would even swim at a beach here or go to a public pool, you'de have to be out of your mind. Plus the Kuwaiti women are more open than other GCC women who are not allowed to leave the house without wearing the abaya. Between you and me, they are resented for this in neighboring GCC countries. I think though because the Kuwaiti women don't want to be forced to wear the abaya, strict muslim clothing like in Saudi Arabia will not be enforced here. This is not what is going on in the UAE and Qatar, what appropriate dress means has really not been defined in detail. In all malls, there are signs on the doors asking women to cover appropriately, but what is upseting these women as most people don't adhere to it because most people, believe it or not, don't interface with locals because Emiritis, like Qatars are very conservative, more so than Kuwaitis.
ReplyDeleteI heard they were much more conservative than Kuwaitis but I only know a few locals from Qatar and the Emirates.
DeleteI always feel embarrased and annoyed when I see westerners dressed like hoochy mummas. A few times I've been very tempted to say something to them. But now I see some locals dressing equally as bad and cringe, because I know for decades their parents have been afraid of this negative influence. However, if you bring up your daughter to understand that this type of clothing can give the wrong impression and is disrespectful to the local culture and religion - they will be more discerning in their choices. My daughter's a Kuwaiti Muslim and I'm a liberal but respectful English woman.
ReplyDeleteI was brought up to dress conservatively by my parents even in the US. It was about respecting myself and not seeming too desperate for attention. Of course I do occasionally dress Euro-Trashy for going out to clubs (outside Kuwait). Bring on the attention so I can get inside fast to VIP. JK! ;P
DeleteI wouldnt mind if they did make people start covering up more, seems like it gets out of control here also sommtimes..
ReplyDeleteI would think for safety and less harassment women would welcome the idea. It should be a choice and not forced like Saudi.
DeleteYesterday I was out in Salmiya and there was a female at the stop light. I had to look twice as she had only a bikini top on from what I could see. It's funny how my company tells women to dress modestly and when they get here it's a whole different story. Anything goes these days. I like wearing my abaya, I feel like no one is staring at my body, plus I can wear my pajamas under it! lol
ReplyDeleteI need to get a few abayas so I can wear my pj's! Where is the best place to get good quality abayas?
DeleteThis doesn't involve clothing but one time, my family and I were in KFC in Fahaheel and there was a couple (westerners) having an argument.. A few minutes after, they decided to patch things up I guess because they started sucking each other's face. :))) It was so inappropriate and so hilarious at the same time because the shababs started CHEERING (making that weird sound with their mouth, not sure what its called but it kinda sounds like when Red Indians dance around a bonfire in the movies LOL) for them and my goodness, they (the couple) didn't stop! I'm not sure if they got carried away by the cheers or if they just didn't care at all? Haha! Well anyway, I think that if you do stuff like that in public, plus dress provocatively, then its like you're really asking for guys to harass you. Sometimes I actually want to wear an abaya.. I'm just not sure if I'm allowed to do that since I'm not a Muslim. It just gets me sometimes that even if you're not really wearing anything sexy, you STILL get harassed. :( Maybe there should also be a law about harassing people...
ReplyDeleteYes, any female is allowed to wear the abaya. It would come in really handy!
DeleteI can't believe two Westerners did that in a public place in Kuwait. They are so lucky they didn't end up sucking face with someone scary in jail.