When I first wrote this post Half and Half ~ When Your Dad is Kuwaiti and Your Mom is Not I began to receive a few emails from young adults who had Middle Eastern Fathers that abandoned them. They didn't want to comment on the post but they decided to write me their life story. These emails were heartbreaking to say the least and now I am still receiving them. This post is for the children and their Fathers.
I know this subject doesn't have anything to do with me since my Father is American and he is always there for me. Even when I do something wrong he has my back. I might get in trouble or fussed at but I can always turn to him for help and guidance. Before I went to University I was even put on restriction for breaking his rules but he did it out of love and I see that now. The fact is that life is complicated enough but not having a supportive Father due to abandonment is unimaginable. I felt compelled to write this post after receiving so many emails on this important subject.
Fathers, the children you have left behind need your recognition and love. It's not just about your financial obligation it's about your duty as a Father. You may have made a mistake when you were young but your child is innocent and shouldn't be punished for your actions. The consequences in this culture for having a child out of wedlock are astronomical. It would bring shame on the entire family or worse. I understand this dilemma but the truth is that you can't change the fact that you now have a child. Your family here might not know about your situation but God knows.
The point of my post is that it's never too late to do the right thing until it's too late. That means that all of us will die one day and meet our maker. When you stand before God what will he say about the child you abandoned? If you can't tell your family here that you have a child abroad you can at least stay in contact with your child. If you are not sure how to reach your child then you can hire an attorney in that country via the Internet to locate them. Talk to them and let them know about your culture and why you did what you did. They deserve an explanation so they do not blame themselves. You can even email, call or visit them and try to rebuild some type of relationship. It’s never too late while you are still on this earth to show them that you love them.
I dedicate this post to the children of Middle Eastern Fathers that wrote me and shared their story. Please be assured that you have done nothing wrong. Do not let your Father's cowardly actions define who you are or will become. I pray that you will find happiness with your Father one day and peace in your heart.